Lobola is a marriage tradition practiced by black people. It is called the brdidewealth, whereby the family of the groom pays the family of the bride before marriage. It is considered
not the purchase of the wife but rather the union of two families. It is now paid in cash. Some people believe that lobola is unnecessary and it's the purchase of the wife and love while some believe it is Thanksgiving to the bride's family for grooming and empowering a wife they are now taking
Do you think lobola is a necessity?
Lobola is part of our culture therefore I think it is necessary that it is paid. Some cultures pay dowry, meaning the bride is the one paying not the groom & they don't make a fuss about it because they embrace their culture fully.
ReplyDeleteIt really makes no sense and I find it very unfair, if the guys family has to thank the lady's family for raising and grooming the lady, why can't the lady's family do the same and thank the Guy's family for grooming and raising the men he is?
ReplyDeleteDefinitely, it gives a feeling of belonging. I think it secures a woman's place in the new family. And prevents her from the insults of this rude in-laws.
ReplyDeleteIt is definitely necessary. Carry a child for nine months is mot a child's play, let alone raising them, disciplining them, feeding and educating them. That's a lot of work done on a person for her to just exchange surnames free of charge. She is also going to bear children and help the legacy to be continuous. Lobola is definitely necessary
ReplyDeleteIn as much as it is part of our cultures, it is not necessary because it is like women are for sale. It is a known fact that whenever there is exchange of something and money is involved, that means it's a sale. I feel like something must be done instead of lobola.
ReplyDeleteI feel like lobola is necessary. As stressful as it is to men who want to marry, they think a thousand times if they really want to take the next step. Financials are very stressful. They answer the question to "does he really love me?" But that doesn't mean lobola garentees that
ReplyDeleteI don't think so, why spent a lot for someone whom you claim to love while you could use the same money to build yourself. Lobola pains more when no one cared about and uncles are there claiming money from your muntuza, money they did not sweat for.
ReplyDeleteLobola is a way of showing respect and appreciate.
ReplyDeleteIt is part of rites of passage however lobola somehow entails buying an individual not be a slave for lifetime to their suppose- to partner
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