Being black

In our different cultures as black people a men is said to be strong and lead a family. In sotho commonly known as " monna halle ke nku". As blacks men are not allowed to be vulnerable and have emotions nor be hurt. Is it fair ? 

We are all aware of depression and anxiety not all of us may comprehend the two illnesses in depth but we know it and agree with me that blacks haven't took time to know about them. In a black household if you say you're depressed it's either you're now too educated and this level of education is running to your head. You may receive statements like "how do you become depressed when you are fed and sheltered" . Blacks are just unfamiliar with things that have to do with the emotions , narrate us a story where you told your parents about your emotions and their response 

As black people even after a woman has left her marriage she is still considered a wife to the family she was married into yet a can move on and is not considered a husband or an in law to the wife's family and it is justified by "the woman takes the man's surname" do you think it's fair

 As blacks after a death of one's wife or husband,  you have to mourn or grieve your partner's death. The manner in which you do it varies from culture to culture. Even after the mourning period that is set if set is over if you move on you are perceived as immoral, especially women whilst men are applauded. When is the perfect time as a black person to move on after the death of a partner? 

  Ever heard of something called black tax ? , well black tax  is a term that originated in South Africa for  money that Black professionals provide to their family every month outside of their own living expenses, usually out of obligation . We all have that rich /financial stable aunt/uncle/brother/sister etc and they are expected to pay for Mametsi's for school fees because at some point when they were in tertiary Mametsi's mother bought her shoes so she was there "in times of need" so how dare of this uncle or aunt not sister not pay Mametsi's fees.  You get my drift we know them but do you think it's fair that a person is now expected to repay family members when they are now successful or working just they were once helped out or for just working?

 In black households, it is a must that a woman must submit to their man as the head of the family and provider, this includes letting go some parts of your individuality. For instance black married women are told to cover themselves when married and  not show way too much skin.  Do you think it's fair that black women have to compromise certain things all in the name of being a submissive wife yet men can do as they like even if they married ? , if  yes state your reasons and vice versa 

 As black people there are values and norms that we live by , and some of them are ridiculous and unreasonable.  so I want discuss of how the values and norms of growing up in a black household are sometimes reasonable and unfair from the issues of marriage, child disciplinary, black tax everything that has to do with being black.  Now let's talk to the issue of reprimanding or disciplinary. Black folks have their way of disciplinary and oh boy it's not a walk in the candy store. What is that one thing that you can never say or do when a black parent is reprimanding you?