Being black

 Lobola is a marriage tradition practiced by black people. It is called the brdidewealth,  whereby the family of the groom pays the family of the bride before marriage.  It is  considered not the purchase of the wife but rather the union of two families. It is now paid in cash. Some people believe that lobola is unnecessary and it's the purchase of the wife and love while some believe it is Thanksgiving to the bride's family for grooming and empowering a wife they are now taking  Do you think lobola is a necessity?

As blacks at a certain age young men and women  go to initiation school.  However now at any age you could go to the school. Initiation school is place where men and women to go as part of the process of becoming adults, it includes circumcision for men.   Do you think in this time and era initiation school is relevant?        

In our different cultures as black people a men is said to be strong and lead a family. In sotho commonly known as " monna halle ke nku". As blacks men are not allowed to be vulnerable and have emotions nor be hurt. Is it fair ? 

We are all aware of depression and anxiety not all of us may comprehend the two illnesses in depth but we know it and agree with me that blacks haven't took time to know about them. In a black household if you say you're depressed it's either you're now too educated and this level of education is running to your head. You may receive statements like "how do you become depressed when you are fed and sheltered" . Blacks are just unfamiliar with things that have to do with the emotions , narrate us a story where you told your parents about your emotions and their response 

As black people even after a woman has left her marriage she is still considered a wife to the family she was married into yet a can move on and is not considered a husband or an in law to the wife's family and it is justified by "the woman takes the man's surname" do you think it's fair

 As blacks after a death of one's wife or husband,  you have to mourn or grieve your partner's death. The manner in which you do it varies from culture to culture. Even after the mourning period that is set if set is over if you move on you are perceived as immoral, especially women whilst men are applauded. When is the perfect time as a black person to move on after the death of a partner?